Ok, So I am currently on a gap year and in Australia having fun with old mates. Recently I posted an ad on gumtree looking for a rideshare so I can go to the Whitsundays with a friend without having to dish out tonnes of cash that I don't have, on transport. In this ad I included a picture of myself as I thought this would gain more of a response.
I am finding some of the responses hilarious. Oh the things people say when they find someone attractive.
At the same time, I'm rather disgusted by the way that people show that they hardly think of, nor care about how their actions may hurt the person that they "love". If you love someone then show it! Be faithful for godsake! And don't hit on other girls/guys if your in an exclusive relationship. Like seriously.. What the hell?
Here is a couple of responses that I have had that have evoked this reaction in me:
"I travel up and down the coast all the time for work. Can get boring sometimes with nothing but bitumen in front of you driving.....
So wouldn't mind the company....got a gf tho so no sex involved sorry.......BUT
If u and yr friend are good... 'eye candy'.... when I pick u up, might even take u up there for free...........
Me....fit....30....Ozzie guy".
Ok, so good on you for not implying that you would cheat on your girlfriend, and fair enough if you genuinely want company because being on the road gets lonely. But I'm still pretty sure that she wouldn't be happy with you giving free lifts to random strange girls because of the fact that they are good "eye candy". I know that if it were me, I would not be happy with that situation.
I don't know whether the following one is even being serious, or perhaps was secretly written by a man or some perv or something!!:
"Heya...
My bf n I r travelin up that way around then. We were going to stay 1 night in 1770 on the way up....
ura hottie...would u care to share a tent wit me 4 the night? He can sleep in the car...LOL
Sorry..never asked that before...so bit embarassed...
xx :-)".
Is that for serious??
Don't know what to make of that, but it's very funny, and kinda horrible at the same time.
(I've taken out any names and contact details).
Wednesday, 17 February 2010
My feelings on Marijuana
I don't like weed. I don't like drugs in general. Not heroin, not cocaine, not LSD, not MDMA, and definitely not weed.
People act so casual about it, but it is still an illegal drug. The people that use it are always coming up with reasons that is fine, and that the illegality of can be bypassed because "the governments don't gain any money from it and so it is illegal,"
but they never stop and think about what they are doing to themselves.
I've watched enough people choose to smoke weed and seen as their memory deteriorates. As every experience becomes about only them.
As they've become schizophrenic and dangerous. As it has broken homes. The experience of the drug becomes more important than the experience of love, or family, or friendship. I've heard people talk about smoking it because it relaxes them, and I've watched as they've "relaxed" into a state of no longer caring about their lives in the real world, nor the people they hurt, nor the memories they've lost.
But even with that being said, I know that it is not heard, it is ignored. Nobody cares about what they are destroying and giving up for the experience.
It applies for all drugs. But the danger applies also with weed, which is viewed so casually that smokers dont stop to think. The damage can be done over a much longer period of time. But the damage is done nonetheless.
If thinking close to home about the effects of drugs doesnt work, how about thinking of the effects that drug abuse has further afield?
I read something somebody posted anonymously online that was along the lines of the following:
"I hate how casually first world people smoke weed and snort coke and don't think about where it came from. I hate that impoverished people in the inner city don't have options to make a better life for themselves so they sell drugs. I hate that Colombia is undergoing a bloody civil war that first world people don't give two shits about. HELLO PEOPLE! Someone died so your stupid college/gentrified/middle class ass could get high. Someone is in jail because they sold you drugs that you use recreationally. I hate that people don't think of the consequences of drug abuse that affect millions of poor people in this world.
I wish you could grow your own drugs in your backyard so that no one other than your selfish ass would get hurt doing drugs."
The point being that it isn't only damaging to ourselves and our relationships with those close to us. But think of the young kids that get killed because of drugs. Think of the families that are torn apart because of drug related death.
I feel so much that it is so hard to find genuine, kind, caring, people that listen and have enough will power to be themselves rather then follow the crowd into drugs because it is now "normal" to be drunk and high when your young. People say "Its a phase that every teen must go through". I disagree. I didn't need to go through that phase. And it's frustrating that it's so hard to find people that also don't feel the need to go through that "stage" in life. Some people get stuck at that "stage" in life and forever remain on a drug ridden path with an early death and missing out on the experiences that life in the real world has to offer.
I read this too and it hit home with me:
"It's ridiculous that our generation is so drunk and high all the time, that when I go to the doctor and they ask me if I smoke or drink, they are surprised when I say no. They're like, "You're a college student and you don't smoke or drink?" People think because I "Just Say No" I'm a prude, or a goodie-goodie. No. I'm just not an idiot".
Thirdly... think of all the money wasted on drugs. Think of the life-enriching experiences you could have if you saved your money to say, go travel. Or to visit family. Or to be able to live more comfortably. Or to be able to help those in need.
Think of the good or productive that you could be doing instead of being too high to do anything or care about anything.
I realise that this probably makes me sound completely close minded to a lot of people. But how many of you people that now judge me as close minded, are the ones taking drugs and assuming I am close minded because it is better to defend yourself then to see if you can open your own mind to another point of view. Open your own mind to reality.
I'm not ranting about how bad it is without the experience of it. I have experienced weed. I have taken it. And I'm glad that I can say that my point of view isn't one sided. I have an open mind. I was open to trying it. And I have made up my mind now after experiencing what it was like, and also seeing the affects it has had on my friends, family and the world around us.
If you are reading this, and you take drugs. Please don't blow it off as bad judgment, please don't just immediately become defensive because you want to take drugs.
Just think about your choice. Not just on the surface, but really think about why you are doing it, honestly. Think about how it honestly affects your life. Think about what you may have lost because of the drug you take. And how your life could change for the better without it. Think about the people you have pushed away doing it. Think about your family and friends.
There is always help.
As always, there is always a choice.
People act so casual about it, but it is still an illegal drug. The people that use it are always coming up with reasons that is fine, and that the illegality of can be bypassed because "the governments don't gain any money from it and so it is illegal,"
but they never stop and think about what they are doing to themselves.
I've watched enough people choose to smoke weed and seen as their memory deteriorates. As every experience becomes about only them.
As they've become schizophrenic and dangerous. As it has broken homes. The experience of the drug becomes more important than the experience of love, or family, or friendship. I've heard people talk about smoking it because it relaxes them, and I've watched as they've "relaxed" into a state of no longer caring about their lives in the real world, nor the people they hurt, nor the memories they've lost.
But even with that being said, I know that it is not heard, it is ignored. Nobody cares about what they are destroying and giving up for the experience.
It applies for all drugs. But the danger applies also with weed, which is viewed so casually that smokers dont stop to think. The damage can be done over a much longer period of time. But the damage is done nonetheless.
If thinking close to home about the effects of drugs doesnt work, how about thinking of the effects that drug abuse has further afield?
I read something somebody posted anonymously online that was along the lines of the following:
"I hate how casually first world people smoke weed and snort coke and don't think about where it came from. I hate that impoverished people in the inner city don't have options to make a better life for themselves so they sell drugs. I hate that Colombia is undergoing a bloody civil war that first world people don't give two shits about. HELLO PEOPLE! Someone died so your stupid college/gentrified/middle class ass could get high. Someone is in jail because they sold you drugs that you use recreationally. I hate that people don't think of the consequences of drug abuse that affect millions of poor people in this world.
I wish you could grow your own drugs in your backyard so that no one other than your selfish ass would get hurt doing drugs."
The point being that it isn't only damaging to ourselves and our relationships with those close to us. But think of the young kids that get killed because of drugs. Think of the families that are torn apart because of drug related death.
I feel so much that it is so hard to find genuine, kind, caring, people that listen and have enough will power to be themselves rather then follow the crowd into drugs because it is now "normal" to be drunk and high when your young. People say "Its a phase that every teen must go through". I disagree. I didn't need to go through that phase. And it's frustrating that it's so hard to find people that also don't feel the need to go through that "stage" in life. Some people get stuck at that "stage" in life and forever remain on a drug ridden path with an early death and missing out on the experiences that life in the real world has to offer.
I read this too and it hit home with me:
"It's ridiculous that our generation is so drunk and high all the time, that when I go to the doctor and they ask me if I smoke or drink, they are surprised when I say no. They're like, "You're a college student and you don't smoke or drink?" People think because I "Just Say No" I'm a prude, or a goodie-goodie. No. I'm just not an idiot".
Thirdly... think of all the money wasted on drugs. Think of the life-enriching experiences you could have if you saved your money to say, go travel. Or to visit family. Or to be able to live more comfortably. Or to be able to help those in need.
Think of the good or productive that you could be doing instead of being too high to do anything or care about anything.
I realise that this probably makes me sound completely close minded to a lot of people. But how many of you people that now judge me as close minded, are the ones taking drugs and assuming I am close minded because it is better to defend yourself then to see if you can open your own mind to another point of view. Open your own mind to reality.
I'm not ranting about how bad it is without the experience of it. I have experienced weed. I have taken it. And I'm glad that I can say that my point of view isn't one sided. I have an open mind. I was open to trying it. And I have made up my mind now after experiencing what it was like, and also seeing the affects it has had on my friends, family and the world around us.
If you are reading this, and you take drugs. Please don't blow it off as bad judgment, please don't just immediately become defensive because you want to take drugs.
Just think about your choice. Not just on the surface, but really think about why you are doing it, honestly. Think about how it honestly affects your life. Think about what you may have lost because of the drug you take. And how your life could change for the better without it. Think about the people you have pushed away doing it. Think about your family and friends.
There is always help.
As always, there is always a choice.
Saturday, 13 February 2010
On choice.
The person you are can be determined by a number of things, starting off with personal choice. The things you choose to do and the people you choose to be around, the advice you choose to listen to and the morals you choose to ignore.
There is always a choice.
Sometimes people outgrow their choices, sometimes subconsciously, sometimes out of realistion that their chosen path is doing them no good.
Some people never do.
Who we are and the choices we make can be dependant. Choosng to live a certain life can be dependant on the advice we get, the people we hang out with, our upbringing, the past we try to escape and our everyday decisions and encounters.
Sometimes it is easy to get stuck in a life of thoughtlessness, selfishness, health destroying and mind destroying habits. It's easier to get stuck in this place when you want to run away. When, without realising, you create excuses and believe things whole heartedly that somewhere in you, you know are not true.
It's easier to believe those things when you surround yourself with people that encourage those thoughts. To say that all selfish acts are just ways to make sure you stay happy and do as you please. Tht all lies are just to protect. When did we become so selfish? When did we start taking our ability to have morals for granted?
They say your friends should bring out the best in you.
What does that mean though?
Sometimes what feels "good" or "fun" isnt always what is best. Its hard to recognise when your friends are pushing you to be a better person, or pushing you to stay stuck in a world of selfish hedonism.
If people were more compassionate rather then constantly selfish, then perhaps we would all be more understanding and cooperative. If people could be more honest, then perhaps the betrayal of a lie and broken trust would not be a pain that others would have to endure. If people thought about the consequences of their actions and the loved ones that they hurt when they make selfish choices then maybe there would be less hurt and more good.
If we could face our problems, rather then running away, maybe we wouldnt become stuck in that dark fake place.
I am not saying that I have not been selfish and that I will not be. Just that there is a difference between looking out for your own wellbeing and being selfish.
It's hard to watch the people you love that are in that dark place. And to never know if they will escape it. Ir's hard to watch and know that no matter what, they cannot hear you and you cannot help.
Whats more is that when you try, it is thrown back in your face. You are wrong for not seeing it their way.
You are wrong for wishing them health and goodness and compassion. Because to them those things have become twisted. Your good words, are twisted. Your love is twisted. It does not suit their darkness. And so you are pushed away.
Change is scary. Recognising choice can be scary. It takes them away from the place they have come to know as good.
Some people stop caring about the hurt they cause others in their choices.... and feel no guilt over it, and maintain a clear conscience. Life isnt fair and sometimes they manage to keep great things in their lives, but for the most part, these are the people that wont maintain true friendships or close relationships and will push away the people that love them most in exchange for close tight knit group of friends that will support their amoral choices and do the same amoral things and also never feel bad about the hurt they have caused.
What seems to be bad choices have been twisted to seem absolutely fine and guilt free.
I do not want to sound like I am on my high horse so I will put this in perspective. Who would agree that the following aren't bad choices and are admirable qualities in mankind:
Selfishness
Lying
Greed
Drug abuse
Alcohol abuse
Cheating
Murdering
Suicide
Violence
I think you know what I mean. These are the qualities that have destroyed lives and broken hearts. These are the traits of darkness. That drag us in under the false pretence of pleasure or fun or escape. And then keep us there.
And it makes me sad.
I hope that I do not get stuck there.
I hope that I do not lose myself to that place.
I hope that I continue to be thoughtful and honest.
What happened to the goodness of people?
Do unto others as you would have done unto yourself.
Honesty.
Love.
Compassion.
Respect.
Being humble.
I cannot say that I am a saint on the matter but I try my hardest, I try my best, I endavour to be an example of these values. Often I get hurt because others abuse this. But I do not sway. I cant fathom how someone could not want to be those things.
It's hard to watch the ones you love create a downward spiral for themselves. I hope that all my loved ones can escape it and know that there is still a good life to be had away from lies and other such things.
Good by what is achievable, even if it is only what we can achieve by man and nothing more. Selfless rather then selfish. Honesty rather then lies. Mindfulness rather then drug use. Understanding rather then aggression.
But it is all choice and we can only hope to be examples of good choices.
And I can only hope that this shows you that you have a choice.. You can reach out of your darkness to those that love you and no matter how far theyve seemed at times, have never abandoned you.
To every person that is struggling through a place of lies or abuse, drugs or selfishness, depression or adultery, no matter how difficult your struggle, or even if you do not realise it,
You are in my thoughts.
You always have a choice.
There is always a choice.
Sometimes people outgrow their choices, sometimes subconsciously, sometimes out of realistion that their chosen path is doing them no good.
Some people never do.
Who we are and the choices we make can be dependant. Choosng to live a certain life can be dependant on the advice we get, the people we hang out with, our upbringing, the past we try to escape and our everyday decisions and encounters.
Sometimes it is easy to get stuck in a life of thoughtlessness, selfishness, health destroying and mind destroying habits. It's easier to get stuck in this place when you want to run away. When, without realising, you create excuses and believe things whole heartedly that somewhere in you, you know are not true.
It's easier to believe those things when you surround yourself with people that encourage those thoughts. To say that all selfish acts are just ways to make sure you stay happy and do as you please. Tht all lies are just to protect. When did we become so selfish? When did we start taking our ability to have morals for granted?
They say your friends should bring out the best in you.
What does that mean though?
Sometimes what feels "good" or "fun" isnt always what is best. Its hard to recognise when your friends are pushing you to be a better person, or pushing you to stay stuck in a world of selfish hedonism.
If people were more compassionate rather then constantly selfish, then perhaps we would all be more understanding and cooperative. If people could be more honest, then perhaps the betrayal of a lie and broken trust would not be a pain that others would have to endure. If people thought about the consequences of their actions and the loved ones that they hurt when they make selfish choices then maybe there would be less hurt and more good.
If we could face our problems, rather then running away, maybe we wouldnt become stuck in that dark fake place.
I am not saying that I have not been selfish and that I will not be. Just that there is a difference between looking out for your own wellbeing and being selfish.
It's hard to watch the people you love that are in that dark place. And to never know if they will escape it. Ir's hard to watch and know that no matter what, they cannot hear you and you cannot help.
Whats more is that when you try, it is thrown back in your face. You are wrong for not seeing it their way.
You are wrong for wishing them health and goodness and compassion. Because to them those things have become twisted. Your good words, are twisted. Your love is twisted. It does not suit their darkness. And so you are pushed away.
Change is scary. Recognising choice can be scary. It takes them away from the place they have come to know as good.
Some people stop caring about the hurt they cause others in their choices.... and feel no guilt over it, and maintain a clear conscience. Life isnt fair and sometimes they manage to keep great things in their lives, but for the most part, these are the people that wont maintain true friendships or close relationships and will push away the people that love them most in exchange for close tight knit group of friends that will support their amoral choices and do the same amoral things and also never feel bad about the hurt they have caused.
What seems to be bad choices have been twisted to seem absolutely fine and guilt free.
I do not want to sound like I am on my high horse so I will put this in perspective. Who would agree that the following aren't bad choices and are admirable qualities in mankind:
Selfishness
Lying
Greed
Drug abuse
Alcohol abuse
Cheating
Murdering
Suicide
Violence
I think you know what I mean. These are the qualities that have destroyed lives and broken hearts. These are the traits of darkness. That drag us in under the false pretence of pleasure or fun or escape. And then keep us there.
And it makes me sad.
I hope that I do not get stuck there.
I hope that I do not lose myself to that place.
I hope that I continue to be thoughtful and honest.
What happened to the goodness of people?
Do unto others as you would have done unto yourself.
Honesty.
Love.
Compassion.
Respect.
Being humble.
I cannot say that I am a saint on the matter but I try my hardest, I try my best, I endavour to be an example of these values. Often I get hurt because others abuse this. But I do not sway. I cant fathom how someone could not want to be those things.
It's hard to watch the ones you love create a downward spiral for themselves. I hope that all my loved ones can escape it and know that there is still a good life to be had away from lies and other such things.
Good by what is achievable, even if it is only what we can achieve by man and nothing more. Selfless rather then selfish. Honesty rather then lies. Mindfulness rather then drug use. Understanding rather then aggression.
But it is all choice and we can only hope to be examples of good choices.
And I can only hope that this shows you that you have a choice.. You can reach out of your darkness to those that love you and no matter how far theyve seemed at times, have never abandoned you.
To every person that is struggling through a place of lies or abuse, drugs or selfishness, depression or adultery, no matter how difficult your struggle, or even if you do not realise it,
You are in my thoughts.
You always have a choice.
Sunday, 30 November 2008
Somewhere to start
I think too much. And Sometimes I think that I would like to share my thoughts with the world.
So here is a place to rest my thoughts.
So here is a place to rest my thoughts.
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